I am fond
of memoirs, especially those that show how someone has overcome challenges to
become a better person or to gain success in a career. I really liked this
memoir. First of all, the writing is top notch; there’s not a word out of
place. Right from the start, the story draws you in. I like the way Broome
frames the book with a modern day bus ride that he took during which he
observes a young father interacting with his toddler son on a bus. As Broome watches
the father throughout the long bus ride, each phase of the ride stimulates a
memory from Broome’s childhood.
This book
covers Broome’s life from childhood through adulthood, growing up in rural
Ohio. He writes about his parents’ loveless marriage and the impact of his
father’s losing his job when the steel mills closed. Since childhood, Broome
was forced to pretend to be something he was not, hiding the fact that he is
gay even from himself. He leaves first chance he gets to go to college, only to
find himself surrounded by bigots. He goes further, to Pittsburgh, where he
finally begins to find people that he can relate to, and for many years he
loses himself to casual relationships, hard drugs, and alcohol. Throughout the
book, Broome keeps taking us back to his childhood, and his relationship with
his parents. He reflects on how several women, including his mother, have had a
significant impact on his life, serving as a savior at critical or dangerous
moments. He pulls no punches as he discusses the damage his father caused, not
only to him, but the whole family.
While
Broome tells us about sad, scary, and hurtful experiences, this book is
ultimately hopeful, as Broome begins to address his addictions, and follows in
the footsteps of his idol, James Baldwin, by taking a sojourn in Europe. This book
is similar in theme to How we fight for our lives, by Saeed Jones, which I also
liked.